"The turning point in the process of growing up is when you discover the core of strength within you that survives all hurt"
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Adulthood, Lerner suggests, isn’t a finish line of competence but a private discovery: there’s something in you that doesn’t go away just because life gets rough. Coming from a journalist who spent his career watching nations, ideologies, and institutions stress-test themselves, this line reads less like a self-help poster and more like a civic observation smuggled into personal language. “Turning point” is the key phrase. Growing up isn’t framed as accumulating lessons or status; it’s a pivot in self-perception, a moment when you stop treating hurt as evidence you’re broken and start treating it as data you can survive.
The sentence does its work through contrast. “Core” implies an internal architecture - not optimism, not denial, not the brittle armor of cynicism. “Strength” is defined narrowly and persuasively: not power over others, not constant happiness, but continuity. The subtext is almost defiant: pain will happen; it may scar you; it doesn’t get a vote on whether you get to keep going. That’s why the phrasing “survives all hurt” lands. It doesn’t promise immunity. It promises remainder.
In the mid-20th-century American context Lerner inhabited - Depression, war, Cold War anxiety - “growing up” doubles as a cultural assignment. The adult isn’t the one who has avoided damage; it’s the one who has located the part that damage can’t evict. That’s a hard-won, unsentimental hope.
The sentence does its work through contrast. “Core” implies an internal architecture - not optimism, not denial, not the brittle armor of cynicism. “Strength” is defined narrowly and persuasively: not power over others, not constant happiness, but continuity. The subtext is almost defiant: pain will happen; it may scar you; it doesn’t get a vote on whether you get to keep going. That’s why the phrasing “survives all hurt” lands. It doesn’t promise immunity. It promises remainder.
In the mid-20th-century American context Lerner inhabited - Depression, war, Cold War anxiety - “growing up” doubles as a cultural assignment. The adult isn’t the one who has avoided damage; it’s the one who has located the part that damage can’t evict. That’s a hard-won, unsentimental hope.
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| Topic | Resilience |
|---|---|
| Source | Help us find the source |
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