"The way to love anything is to realize that it may be lost"
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The intent is corrective, aimed at the modern habit (already visible in Chesterton’s era) of treating attachment like a consumer contract: if you pay the emotional premium, you deserve permanent access. He punctures that fantasy by making impermanence the entry fee. Love, in this frame, isn’t strengthened by guarantees; it’s sharpened by contingency. You cherish a person, a place, a belief because it is not invulnerable. The line smuggles in a quiet moral demand: stop acting like the world owes you continuity.
The subtext is theological without being preachy. Chesterton’s Christianity often works through gratitude, and gratitude requires the recognition that what you have is gift, not entitlement. “May be lost” is a memento mori for everyday life: the coffee cup can break, the friendship can sour, the body can fail. That possibility doesn’t cheapen love; it dignifies it, turning attention into a form of reverence.
Context matters: Chesterton was writing against both sentimental optimism and hard-edged cynicism. This sentence threads the needle. It refuses denial, but it also refuses detachment. The trick is that it makes vulnerability sound like strength.
Quote Details
| Topic | Love |
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| Source | Later attribution: The Lost and Found Box (James Wadley, 2012) modern compilation
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| Featured | This quote was our Quote of the Day on August 2, 2023 |
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"The way to love anything is to realize that it may be lost." FixQuotes, 7 Feb. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/the-way-to-love-anything-is-to-realize-that-it-51954/. Accessed 16 Feb. 2026.













