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Happiness Quote by Bette Midler

"The worst part of success is to try to find someone who is happy for you"

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Success is supposed to be the victory lap; Bette Midler points out it can feel more like a social audit. Her line lands because it flips the familiar fantasy: the hard part is not the grind, its the aftermath, when your achievement becomes a spotlight that exposes other peoples insecurities. The sting is in the phrase "try to find" - happiness for you isnt assumed, its hunted for, like a rare courtesy in a room full of polite smiles.

Midler, a performer who built a career on boldness and big emotion, knows how fame rearranges relationships. In entertainment, success isnt private; it becomes a public scoreboard. Friends become comparatives. Colleagues become competitors. Even family can get weird when your name on a marquee changes the power dynamics at dinner. The quote captures that low-grade loneliness of being celebrated by strangers while feeling quietly resented by people who know your real voice.

Theres also a gendered undertow: for women, ambition and visibility still trigger a particular kind of social penalty. Midler delivers the thought with a comic scalpel, but the subtext is bruised: people dont just envy the money or attention, they envy the permission you seem to have claimed.

It works because it names an unglamorous truth about winning: success can be a stress test for your ecosystem, revealing who can hold your joy without making it about their lack.

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Midler, Bette. (2026, January 17). The worst part of success is to try to find someone who is happy for you. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/the-worst-part-of-success-is-to-try-to-find-38288/

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Midler, Bette. "The worst part of success is to try to find someone who is happy for you." FixQuotes. January 17, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/the-worst-part-of-success-is-to-try-to-find-38288/.

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"The worst part of success is to try to find someone who is happy for you." FixQuotes, 17 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/the-worst-part-of-success-is-to-try-to-find-38288/. Accessed 8 Feb. 2026.

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Bette Midler

Bette Midler (born December 1, 1945) is a Actress from USA.

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