"There are few surer ways to become disliked by men than to perform well where they have performed poorly"
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Nothing bruises the ego like competence in the wrong room. McGill’s line isn’t really about “men” as a gendered category so much as men as a stand-in for status-keepers: the people who’ve built a fragile peace with their own shortcomings and don’t want it disturbed by your success. The sting comes from how cleanly it names a social reflex most of us prefer to dress up as “standards” or “fit.”
The intent is almost tactical. It warns that excellence isn’t automatically admired; it can read as an indictment. When you do well at what someone else failed at, you don’t just change the outcome, you rewrite the story they’ve been telling themselves about why it couldn’t be done. Your performance becomes a mirror, and mirrors aren’t popular among the insecure. That’s the subtext: resentment often masquerades as critique. “We don’t like your attitude,” “you got lucky,” “you’re showing off” are just socially acceptable ways to say, “Your competence makes my incompetence visible.”
McGill is writing in the idiom of modern self-help realism: hard-earned encouragement paired with a sober heads-up about backlash. In workplaces, friend groups, and families, hierarchies are maintained as much by emotional comfort as by formal power. The quote works because it flips a comforting myth - that merit naturally rises - into a sharper truth: social belonging is negotiated, and outperforming people can be read as an act of aggression even when it’s simply skill.
The intent is almost tactical. It warns that excellence isn’t automatically admired; it can read as an indictment. When you do well at what someone else failed at, you don’t just change the outcome, you rewrite the story they’ve been telling themselves about why it couldn’t be done. Your performance becomes a mirror, and mirrors aren’t popular among the insecure. That’s the subtext: resentment often masquerades as critique. “We don’t like your attitude,” “you got lucky,” “you’re showing off” are just socially acceptable ways to say, “Your competence makes my incompetence visible.”
McGill is writing in the idiom of modern self-help realism: hard-earned encouragement paired with a sober heads-up about backlash. In workplaces, friend groups, and families, hierarchies are maintained as much by emotional comfort as by formal power. The quote works because it flips a comforting myth - that merit naturally rises - into a sharper truth: social belonging is negotiated, and outperforming people can be read as an act of aggression even when it’s simply skill.
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| Topic | Wisdom |
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