"There are more tears shed over answered prayers than over unanswered prayers"
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The intent is pastoral but unsentimental. As a reformer and mystic who lived inside both ecstatic devotion and institutional suspicion, Teresa knew that desire is not automatically wisdom. People pray for outcomes that flatter fear, ego, or impatience: a door to open, a rival to lose, a pain to stop immediately. When the prayer is answered, the consequences arrive unfiltered. The tears aren’t proof that God is cruel; they’re evidence that the petitioner was mistaken about what “good” looked like, or that the good comes with an unbearable cost.
Subtext: faith is not a vending machine, and piety doesn’t protect you from yourself. Teresa’s Catholic world prized obedience and discernment - the slow, difficult work of separating real spiritual need from craving dressed up as virtue. The line also carries a quiet warning about control. Unanswered prayers can be endured as mystery; answered prayers remove the veil and force accountability. You asked. You got it. Now live with it.
Context matters: Teresa wrote amid plague, political rigidity, and the Counter-Reformation’s anxiety about spiritual authenticity. In that climate, her blunt realism functions as spiritual inoculation against naive triumphalism. It’s a sentence meant to mature the believer: not to pray less, but to desire more honestly, and to fear most the wish that comes true.
Quote Details
| Topic | Prayer |
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| Source | Later attribution: Life Lessons of Wisdom & Motivation - Volume IV (M.I. Seka, 2014) modern compilationISBN: 9781495395635 · ID: UGDzAgAAQBAJ
Evidence:
... There are more tears shed over answered prayers than over unanswered prayers. - Saint Teresa of Avila 1515 – 1582; Spanish mystic, nun, writer, Catholic saint, & theologian. 154 Give light and people will find the way. - Ella ... |
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