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Daily Inspiration Quote by Danny DeVito

"There are two dilemmas that rattle the human skull: How do you hang on to someone who won't stay? And how do you get rid of someone who won't go?"

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DeVito’s line lands because it treats heartbreak like a physical comedy problem: two doors, both jammed. The phrasing is tidy, almost vaudevillian - “hang on” versus “get rid of” - but the humor is doing triage, turning emotional chaos into a clean binary you can say out loud without falling apart. That’s an actor’s instinct: make a messy interior dilemma playable, speakable, memorable.

The first question exposes a particular kind of modern panic: attachment without leverage. “Someone who won’t stay” isn’t just a breakup; it’s the slow-motion fade, the half-committed relationship, the person with one foot out who still wants the comforts of being loved. “Hang on” carries a faintly pathetic physicality, like gripping a ledge. You can almost feel the strain in your hands.

Then the line flips to the opposite nightmare: boundaries that don’t hold. “Someone who won’t go” suggests emotional squatters - exes, family, friends, or partners who refuse the narrative you’re trying to write for your own life. The bluntness of “get rid of” is the point; it’s the guilty thought people have but rarely confess because it sounds cruel. DeVito gives it permission.

The subtext is that agency is fragile at both ends of intimacy. We’re taught love is chosen, but this joke insists that connection often behaves like gravity: hard to resist, hard to escape. It’s not romantic. It’s not noble. It’s recognizable - and that’s why it stings while it makes you laugh.

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APA Style (7th ed.)
DeVito, Danny. (2026, January 17). There are two dilemmas that rattle the human skull: How do you hang on to someone who won't stay? And how do you get rid of someone who won't go? FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/there-are-two-dilemmas-that-rattle-the-human-66580/

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DeVito, Danny. "There are two dilemmas that rattle the human skull: How do you hang on to someone who won't stay? And how do you get rid of someone who won't go?" FixQuotes. January 17, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/there-are-two-dilemmas-that-rattle-the-human-66580/.

MLA Style (9th ed.)
"There are two dilemmas that rattle the human skull: How do you hang on to someone who won't stay? And how do you get rid of someone who won't go?" FixQuotes, 17 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/there-are-two-dilemmas-that-rattle-the-human-66580/. Accessed 4 Feb. 2026.

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Danny DeVito (born November 17, 1944) is a Actor from USA.

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