"There are two tragedies in life. One is to lose your heart's desire. The other is to gain it"
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The intent isn’t to preach asceticism so much as to expose appetite as a staging device: we organize our lives around wanting, because wanting gives narrative shape. “Heart’s desire” sounds sacred, but Shaw treats it as a dramatic prop that can misfire. If you lose it, you’re left with grief and the humiliation of powerlessness. If you gain it, you’re left with something arguably worse for a dramatist: the curtain drops. Achievement can reveal the desire was smaller than the life you sacrificed to pursue it, or that it carried hidden costs, obligations, boredom, or guilt. Fulfillment doesn’t end longing; it often detonates it.
In context, this is Shaw the social critic, suspicious of romantic and capitalist mythologies that promise salvation through acquisition - of love, status, success. As a playwright, he also understands that satisfaction is inert onstage; conflict drives action. The subtext is bracing: the real tragedy isn’t misfortune, it’s the mismatch between what we think will redeem us and what actually can. Shaw makes disappointment democratic. Even the winners don’t get to win cleanly.
Quote Details
| Topic | Wisdom |
|---|---|
| Source | Unverified source: Man and Superman (George Bernard Shaw, 1903)
Evidence: MENDOZA. [advancing between Violet and Tanner] Sir: there are two tragedies in life. One is not to get your heart's desire. The other is to get it. Mine and yours, sir. (Act IV (spoken by the character Mendoza)). This is the earliest primary-source match for the quote in Shaw's own writing that I... Other candidates (1) The Playwrighting Self of Bernard Shaw (John Anthony Bertolini, 1991) compilation95.0% ... There are two tragedies in life . One is to lose your heart's desire . The other is to gain it . " Cf. Lady ... G... |
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Shaw, George Bernard. (2026, February 10). There are two tragedies in life. One is to lose your heart's desire. The other is to gain it. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/there-are-two-tragedies-in-life-one-is-to-lose-43449/
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"There are two tragedies in life. One is to lose your heart's desire. The other is to gain it." FixQuotes, 10 Feb. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/there-are-two-tragedies-in-life-one-is-to-lose-43449/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.








