"There comes a point in many people's lives when they can no longer play the role they have chosen for themselves. When that happens, we are like actors finding that someone has changed the play"
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The actor metaphor is doing more than adding color. Actors expect the play to be stable: same lines, same motivations, same cues. Moore’s sting is the suggestion that life changes the play without notice or consent. A spouse becomes a stranger, a body ages, politics curdles, a child’s needs rewrite your priorities. You’re still onstage, still expected to hit your marks, but the narrative logic that once made your choices coherent has been revised.
As a novelist of displacement and moral unease, Moore is attuned to how institutions and social expectations assign roles as much as we select them. “Chosen for themselves” carries an edge: our “choices” are often bargains with circumstance. The subtext is existential but also social: identity is collaborative and therefore unstable. When the script changes, the panic isn’t just that you don’t know what to do next - it’s the dawning suspicion that you never fully controlled the story in the first place.
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Moore, Brian. (2026, January 18). There comes a point in many people's lives when they can no longer play the role they have chosen for themselves. When that happens, we are like actors finding that someone has changed the play. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/there-comes-a-point-in-many-peoples-lives-when-23834/
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Moore, Brian. "There comes a point in many people's lives when they can no longer play the role they have chosen for themselves. When that happens, we are like actors finding that someone has changed the play." FixQuotes. January 18, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/there-comes-a-point-in-many-peoples-lives-when-23834/.
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"There comes a point in many people's lives when they can no longer play the role they have chosen for themselves. When that happens, we are like actors finding that someone has changed the play." FixQuotes, 18 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/there-comes-a-point-in-many-peoples-lives-when-23834/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.









