"There is another side to chivalry. If it dispenses leniency, it may with equal justification invoke control"
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Chivalry is supposed to feel like a moral upgrade: doors held, voices softened, women “protected” from harm. Adler flips the velvet lining and shows the steel underneath. The line lands because it treats courtesy as a transaction, not a virtue. If chivalry “dispenses leniency,” it also establishes who has the power to grant it. Leniency is never neutral; it’s permission handed down from someone positioned above you.
The subtext is a warning about benevolent sexism: the kind that sounds respectful while quietly narrowing women’s autonomy. When men are cast as guardians, women become wards. Protection becomes a rationale for restriction, and politeness becomes a policy argument. The phrase “with equal justification” is the dagger; it mimics the logic of fairness to expose its coercive symmetry. If you accept the premise that one group should be treated gently because it is delicate or different, you’ve already accepted the premise that the same group can be managed “for its own good.”
As an educator (and more broadly, a criminologist writing in a period when feminist scholarship was challenging paternalistic institutions), Adler is pointing to how cultural scripts seep into law, workplaces, and family life. The “another side” is social control disguised as etiquette: curfews, dress codes, protective legislation that limits employment, policing of sexuality under the banner of safety. Adler’s intent isn’t to sneer at kindness; it’s to show how quickly kindness becomes leverage when it’s built on hierarchy.
The subtext is a warning about benevolent sexism: the kind that sounds respectful while quietly narrowing women’s autonomy. When men are cast as guardians, women become wards. Protection becomes a rationale for restriction, and politeness becomes a policy argument. The phrase “with equal justification” is the dagger; it mimics the logic of fairness to expose its coercive symmetry. If you accept the premise that one group should be treated gently because it is delicate or different, you’ve already accepted the premise that the same group can be managed “for its own good.”
As an educator (and more broadly, a criminologist writing in a period when feminist scholarship was challenging paternalistic institutions), Adler is pointing to how cultural scripts seep into law, workplaces, and family life. The “another side” is social control disguised as etiquette: curfews, dress codes, protective legislation that limits employment, policing of sexuality under the banner of safety. Adler’s intent isn’t to sneer at kindness; it’s to show how quickly kindness becomes leverage when it’s built on hierarchy.
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