"There is as much difference between the counsel that a friend giveth, and that a man giveth himself, as there is between the counsel of a friend and of a flatterer. For there is no such flatterer as is a man's self"
About this Quote
The intent is corrective, almost managerial. In Bacon's world, advice is a technology for better decisions, and the biggest bug in the system is the ego's ability to launder desire into "good reasons". A flatterer tells you what you want to hear to gain access or advantage. The self does the same thing to gain something more intimate: comfort, innocence, a story where you remain competent and blameless. His phrasing, "no such flatterer as is a man's self", is deliberately absolute, the kind of overstatement that functions as diagnosis. If you feel accused, you're already proving him right.
Context matters: Bacon writes at the dawn of modern empiricism, suspicious of inherited authority and equally suspicious of the mind's internal authority. This is the same impulse behind his warnings about "idols" - systematic mental errors. Friendship becomes a tool not for sentimentality but for epistemic hygiene: an external check against the self's most persuasive spin doctor.
Quote Details
| Topic | Friendship |
|---|---|
| Source | Help us find the source |
| Cite |
Citation Formats
APA Style (7th ed.)
Bacon, Francis. (2026, January 18). There is as much difference between the counsel that a friend giveth, and that a man giveth himself, as there is between the counsel of a friend and of a flatterer. For there is no such flatterer as is a man's self. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/there-is-as-much-difference-between-the-counsel-6661/
Chicago Style
Bacon, Francis. "There is as much difference between the counsel that a friend giveth, and that a man giveth himself, as there is between the counsel of a friend and of a flatterer. For there is no such flatterer as is a man's self." FixQuotes. January 18, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/there-is-as-much-difference-between-the-counsel-6661/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"There is as much difference between the counsel that a friend giveth, and that a man giveth himself, as there is between the counsel of a friend and of a flatterer. For there is no such flatterer as is a man's self." FixQuotes, 18 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/there-is-as-much-difference-between-the-counsel-6661/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.












