"There is much to support the view that it is clothes that wear us, and not we, them; we may make them take the mould of arm or breast, but they mould our hearts, our brains, our tongues to their liking"
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The intent is less anti-style than anti-innocence. Woolf is prying open the social machinery of appearance in a Britain where class and gender were policed through textiles, posture, and "proper" presentation. Clothes are a portable institution: they carry expectations about femininity and respectability, and they do it so efficiently you can mistake coercion for taste. "Tongues" is the clincher. Dress codes dont only discipline bodies; they shape what feels sayable, what kind of person can speak with authority, and who is expected to stay ornamental.
Underneath the aphorism is Woolfs larger modernist suspicion that the self is not a sealed interior but a product of pressures, rituals, and props. She makes fashion sound like an author: it has "their liking". The real sting is that we cooperate, calling it choice, while the costume rewrites the character.
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Woolf, Virginia. (2026, January 15). There is much to support the view that it is clothes that wear us, and not we, them; we may make them take the mould of arm or breast, but they mould our hearts, our brains, our tongues to their liking. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/there-is-much-to-support-the-view-that-it-is-28347/
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Woolf, Virginia. "There is much to support the view that it is clothes that wear us, and not we, them; we may make them take the mould of arm or breast, but they mould our hearts, our brains, our tongues to their liking." FixQuotes. January 15, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/there-is-much-to-support-the-view-that-it-is-28347/.
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"There is much to support the view that it is clothes that wear us, and not we, them; we may make them take the mould of arm or breast, but they mould our hearts, our brains, our tongues to their liking." FixQuotes, 15 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/there-is-much-to-support-the-view-that-it-is-28347/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.
