"There is no subject on which more dangerous nonsense is talked and thought than marriage"
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Shaw swings the blade with a smile: marriage, the institution everyone feels licensed to advise on, is also the one most saturated with confident stupidity. The sting is in “dangerous.” He’s not just calling the discourse silly; he’s accusing it of doing harm - to women trapped by law and custom, to men cushioned by entitlement, to children drafted into a moral pageant staged for public approval. For a dramatist who made a career out of puncturing Victorian pieties, “nonsense” isn’t casual insult. It’s the social script: romance as destiny, sexual double standards as “nature,” economic dependence dressed up as virtue.
The line works because it targets a peculiar cultural loophole. On money or politics, ignorance gets punished; on marriage, ignorance gets sanctified. People speak in inherited slogans (“settling down,” “respectability,” “a good match”) and confuse repetition with truth. Shaw’s phrasing - “talked and thought” - widens the indictment. The problem isn’t only the chatter of advice-givers; it’s the internal monologue people use to justify choices already constrained by class, gender, and religion.
Context matters: Shaw wrote amid battles over divorce reform, women’s rights, and the uneasy modernization of family life. He watched marriage function as both private arrangement and public technology, organizing property, legitimacy, and social rank. His cynicism is strategic, not nihilistic. By calling the surrounding ideology “dangerous nonsense,” he clears space for marriage to be examined as a contract and a power relationship, not a holy mystery - and for adults to admit, with radical humility, that tradition is not the same thing as wisdom.
The line works because it targets a peculiar cultural loophole. On money or politics, ignorance gets punished; on marriage, ignorance gets sanctified. People speak in inherited slogans (“settling down,” “respectability,” “a good match”) and confuse repetition with truth. Shaw’s phrasing - “talked and thought” - widens the indictment. The problem isn’t only the chatter of advice-givers; it’s the internal monologue people use to justify choices already constrained by class, gender, and religion.
Context matters: Shaw wrote amid battles over divorce reform, women’s rights, and the uneasy modernization of family life. He watched marriage function as both private arrangement and public technology, organizing property, legitimacy, and social rank. His cynicism is strategic, not nihilistic. By calling the surrounding ideology “dangerous nonsense,” he clears space for marriage to be examined as a contract and a power relationship, not a holy mystery - and for adults to admit, with radical humility, that tradition is not the same thing as wisdom.
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| Topic | Marriage |
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| Source | Unverified source: Getting Married (George Bernard Shaw, 1908)
Evidence: Preface, section heading "THE REVOLT AGAINST MARRIAGE" (opening sentence). Primary-source location: Shaw writes this line as the very first sentence of the Preface to his play "Getting Married" (dated 1908 in the text). In the Project Gutenberg transcription, it appears under "PREFACE TO GETTING ... Other candidates (2) George Bernard Shaw (George Bernard Shaw) compilation98.7% 1908 full text online there is no subject on which more dangerous nonsense is talked and thought than marriage The Complete Idiot's Guide to Great Quotes for All Occasions (Elaine Bernstein Partnow, 2008) compilation95.0% ... There is no subject on which more dangerous nonsense is talked and thought than marriage . -George Bernard Shaw ,... |
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