"There's a way about it: tearing people down, but not tearing them apart"
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The intent feels less like a plea for kindness than a demand for precision. “Not tearing them apart” implies boundaries: critique the work, the choice, the behavior - not the person’s basic worth. It’s the difference between “that scene isn’t landing” and “you don’t have it.” One is actionable; the other is identity warfare.
Subtextually, it’s also a comment on power. The people doing the tearing are rarely peers; they’re directors, producers, reviewers, fandoms - crowds with leverage. Shanks’s phrasing acknowledges that takedowns will happen, then quietly insists on responsibility in how they’re delivered. It’s a code for creative spaces (and workplaces) that fetishize “brutal honesty” as a personality, confusing cruelty for high standards.
Context matters: an actor known for genre TV understands communities that can be intensely devoted and intensely punishing. The line reads like hard-earned etiquette for living under a microscope: keep the edge, lose the sadism.
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"There's a way about it: tearing people down, but not tearing them apart." FixQuotes, 17 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/theres-a-way-about-it-tearing-people-down-but-not-67732/. Accessed 11 Feb. 2026.













