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Fatherhood Quote by Tatum O'Neal

"Things with my dad were pretty good until I won an Academy Award. He was really loving to me until I got more attention than he did. Then he hated me"

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A child winning an Academy Award is supposed to read like a fairy tale; O'Neal frames it like a family crime scene. The blunt pivot - "pretty good until" - turns achievement into the inciting incident, exposing how fame doesn't just change the winner's life, it rearranges the emotional hierarchy of everyone nearby. Her phrasing is disarmingly plain, almost tabloid-simple, which is exactly why it lands: it mimics how a kid might file away a devastating realization in the only language available.

The subtext is a diagnosis of a particular parental brittleness: love that functions as long as the parent remains the star. When she says, "until I got more attention than he did", she's not describing jealousy in the abstract; she's naming attention as a household currency. In that economy, the child's success isn't shared pride, it's a hostile takeover. "Then he hated me" is deliberately unvarnished, refusing the softer euphemisms people reach for ("resented", "struggled"). The extremity isn't rhetorical flourish; it's the emotional truth of what it feels like when affection becomes conditional overnight.

Context matters: Ryan O'Neal was himself a famous actor, and this is Hollywood, where validation is both public and addictive. O'Neal's intent isn't to scandalize so much as to puncture the myth that celebrity is purely upward mobility. Sometimes it detonates the one relationship that's supposed to be insulated from competition - and she narrates that betrayal with the clean, unforgiving logic of someone who had to grow up too fast.

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O'Neal, Tatum. (2026, January 17). Things with my dad were pretty good until I won an Academy Award. He was really loving to me until I got more attention than he did. Then he hated me. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/things-with-my-dad-were-pretty-good-until-i-won-74112/

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O'Neal, Tatum. "Things with my dad were pretty good until I won an Academy Award. He was really loving to me until I got more attention than he did. Then he hated me." FixQuotes. January 17, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/things-with-my-dad-were-pretty-good-until-i-won-74112/.

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"Things with my dad were pretty good until I won an Academy Award. He was really loving to me until I got more attention than he did. Then he hated me." FixQuotes, 17 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/things-with-my-dad-were-pretty-good-until-i-won-74112/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.

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Tatum O'Neal (born November 5, 1963) is a Actress from USA.

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