"This is what is hardest: to close the open hand because one loves"
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That’s pure Nietzschean subtext: suspicion toward the moral glamour of self-sacrifice. In his world, love easily mutates into a disguised will to power - the desire to secure, shape, or domesticate the beloved. The open hand can be generous, but it can also be a trap that looks like kindness. Closing it is an ethical act only if it’s also an act of clarity: admitting where “care” has become control, where devotion has become dependency, where staying has become a way of avoiding solitude.
Context matters. Nietzsche’s writing is crowded with warnings about pity, sentimental morality, and the ways “good” emotions recruit us into weakness. This line reads like a scalpel aimed at romantic and altruistic clichés: the mature test isn’t whether you can hold on; it’s whether you can stop holding, precisely when your feelings give you the best excuse to cling.
Quote Details
| Topic | Letting Go |
|---|---|
| Source | Verified source: Also sprach Zarathustra (Friedrich Nietzsche, 1883)
Evidence: Dies nämlich ist das Schwerste, aus Liebe die offne Hand schließen und als Schenkender die Scham bewahren. (Part II, Chapter XXIII (“Das Kind mit dem Spiegel” / “The Child with the Mirror”)). This line appears in Nietzsche’s own text in Also sprach Zarathustra, at the start of Part II, Chapter XXIII (“Das Kind mit dem Spiegel”). The commonly-circulated English rendering (“This is what is hardest: to close the open hand because one loves”) is a shortened/loosened paraphrase of standard translations. A widely used full English translation (Thomas Common) renders the sentence: “For this is hardest of all: to close the open hand out of love, and keep modest as a giver.” (Project Gutenberg eBook text). Nietzsche’s Zarathustra was first issued in parts over 1883–1885; this chapter is in Part II, which was first published in 1883. (Exact page number depends on the specific printed edition; the chapter identifier is the most stable locator.) Other candidates (1) The Very Best of Friedrich Nietzsche (David Graham, 2014) compilation95.0% ... This is what is hardest : to close the open hand because one loves . " " This is the hardest of all : to close th... |
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