"Those who have suffered understand suffering and therefore extend their hand"
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The subtext pushes against a culture that treats trauma like content or currency. "Those who have suffered" could easily become the gatekeepers of pain, the ones insisting no one else can possibly get it. Smith flips that impulse. Suffering, in her framing, doesn't grant status; it imposes responsibility. The "therefore" is doing heavy lifting: empathy isn't a personality trait you either have or don't, it's a consequence - almost a duty - of having been cracked open.
Context matters because Smith's voice arrives from punk's austerity and generosity: art made from scarcity, community built in the aftermath. She's long written about loss, addiction, poverty, and the aftershocks of loving people who don't survive themselves. That history makes "extend their hand" feel less like self-help and more like an ethos of the scene: you make it out, you pull someone else up. It's not sanctimony. It's a rough, practical kind of grace.
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| Topic | Kindness |
|---|---|
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Smith, Patti. (n.d.). Those who have suffered understand suffering and therefore extend their hand. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/those-who-have-suffered-understand-suffering-and-166456/
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Smith, Patti. "Those who have suffered understand suffering and therefore extend their hand." FixQuotes. Accessed February 2, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/those-who-have-suffered-understand-suffering-and-166456/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"Those who have suffered understand suffering and therefore extend their hand." FixQuotes, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/those-who-have-suffered-understand-suffering-and-166456/. Accessed 2 Feb. 2026.






