"To bear with patience wrongs done to oneself is a mark of perfection, but to bear with patience wrongs done to someone else is a mark of imperfection and even of actual sin"
About this Quote
The subtext is a warning against misusing piety as moral sedation. Medieval Christianity prized humility, obedience, and endurance; those virtues could easily be weaponized by the powerful to keep social order intact. Aquinas anticipates the loophole: people will call their inaction "peace", "prudence", or "trust in God". He calls it what it often is: sin. Not because anger is automatically righteous, but because love, in his system, is not merely an inner feeling - it's a duty with teeth. Charity obligates you to intervene when justice is being violated, even when intervention is inconvenient or dangerous.
Context matters: Aquinas is writing in a world of hierarchy and institutional authority, where disputes over coercion, punishment, and rightful resistance were not abstractions. He’s drawing a boundary between sanctity and complicity. The line lands today because it punctures a familiar cultural pose: the serene bystander who treats outrage as a personal failing, and calls silence "maturity" while harm continues offstage.
Quote Details
| Topic | Forgiveness |
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| Source | Later attribution: 100 Quotes About Patience And Tolerance That Will Transfo... (The Quotes Library, 2024) modern compilationISBN: 9781300929307 · ID: THEwEQAAQBAJ
Evidence:
... To bear with patience wrongs done to oneself is a mark of perfection , but to bear with patience wrongs done to someone else is a mark of imperfection and even of actual sin . " Summa Theologica by Thomas Aquinas # 69 " To educate ... |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Aquinas, Thomas. (2026, February 9). To bear with patience wrongs done to oneself is a mark of perfection, but to bear with patience wrongs done to someone else is a mark of imperfection and even of actual sin. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/to-bear-with-patience-wrongs-done-to-oneself-is-a-36788/
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Aquinas, Thomas. "To bear with patience wrongs done to oneself is a mark of perfection, but to bear with patience wrongs done to someone else is a mark of imperfection and even of actual sin." FixQuotes. February 9, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/to-bear-with-patience-wrongs-done-to-oneself-is-a-36788/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"To bear with patience wrongs done to oneself is a mark of perfection, but to bear with patience wrongs done to someone else is a mark of imperfection and even of actual sin." FixQuotes, 9 Feb. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/to-bear-with-patience-wrongs-done-to-oneself-is-a-36788/. Accessed 18 Feb. 2026.









