"To change what you get you must change who you are"
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The subtext is both empowering and accusatory. Empowering, because it relocates agency inward: you can’t control the economy, your partner, your past, but you can rewrite the internal script that keeps recreating the same external scene. Accusatory, because it implies you are complicit in your disappointments. If you’re not getting what you want, you’re still choosing - through fear, inertia, or a loyalty to an old story - to remain the person for whom those outcomes make sense.
Howard wrote in the mid-century American self-help lineage that fused spirituality with psychological self-discipline, a period hungry for clean, portable truths. The phrasing works because it’s blunt enough to feel like honesty and broad enough to feel personally tailored. Its hidden risk is also its appeal: it can flatten structural realities into personal failure. Still, as a provocation, it does what good aphorisms do: it turns complaint into mirror, and makes “change” sound less like a tactic than a character overhaul.
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| Topic | Reinvention |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Howard, Vernon. (2026, January 15). To change what you get you must change who you are. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/to-change-what-you-get-you-must-change-who-you-are-71793/
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Howard, Vernon. "To change what you get you must change who you are." FixQuotes. January 15, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/to-change-what-you-get-you-must-change-who-you-are-71793/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"To change what you get you must change who you are." FixQuotes, 15 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/to-change-what-you-get-you-must-change-who-you-are-71793/. Accessed 4 Feb. 2026.









