"To deaden yourself against any hurt is to deaden yourself also against the hurt of others"
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Self-protection has a hidden cost: it doesn’t just blunt pain, it dulls perception. Lerner’s line is a quiet indictment of the emotional armor that modern life keeps selling us as “strength.” He’s not romanticizing suffering; he’s pointing to a moral physics. Numbness is efficient. It helps you get through the day, through the headline cycle, through the private humiliations you don’t have time to process. But it also shrinks the bandwidth required to register other people as fully human.
The sentence works because it turns an inward tactic into an outward consequence. “Deaden yourself” sounds clinical, almost anesthetic, suggesting an intentional procedure rather than a tragic accident. That choice matters: Lerner frames detachment not as fate but as habit, something practiced until it becomes a personality. Then he pivots to “also,” the hinge word that makes empathy collateral damage. You can’t selectively mute your own hurt; the same nerve endings carry the signals of someone else’s.
Contextually, Lerner wrote across an American century that got very good at institutionalized numbness: mass war, propaganda, consumer distraction, bureaucratic distance. Journalism itself can train a kind of professional callus, the pose of being “unmoved” so you can keep reporting. Lerner, a journalist, seems to warn his own tribe: cynicism isn’t just an aesthetic, it’s an ethical failure.
The subtext lands hardest now, in an era of constant exposure to suffering. When everything is content, feeling becomes exhausting, so numbing looks like sanity. Lerner reminds us it’s also a slow sabotage of solidarity.
The sentence works because it turns an inward tactic into an outward consequence. “Deaden yourself” sounds clinical, almost anesthetic, suggesting an intentional procedure rather than a tragic accident. That choice matters: Lerner frames detachment not as fate but as habit, something practiced until it becomes a personality. Then he pivots to “also,” the hinge word that makes empathy collateral damage. You can’t selectively mute your own hurt; the same nerve endings carry the signals of someone else’s.
Contextually, Lerner wrote across an American century that got very good at institutionalized numbness: mass war, propaganda, consumer distraction, bureaucratic distance. Journalism itself can train a kind of professional callus, the pose of being “unmoved” so you can keep reporting. Lerner, a journalist, seems to warn his own tribe: cynicism isn’t just an aesthetic, it’s an ethical failure.
The subtext lands hardest now, in an era of constant exposure to suffering. When everything is content, feeling becomes exhausting, so numbing looks like sanity. Lerner reminds us it’s also a slow sabotage of solidarity.
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| Topic | Kindness |
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