"To forgive oneself? No, that doesn't work: we have to be forgiven. But we can only believe this is possible if we ourselves can forgive"
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The subtext is almost theological without needing church language: forgiveness is something received, not manufactured. That makes it heavier and more bracing. It implies accountability to a moral order outside the self - other people, history, perhaps God. And it quietly undermines the ego’s last refuge: even our repentance can become self-congratulation if no one else has to meet us there.
Then comes the pivot that gives the quote its bite: “But we can only believe this is possible if we ourselves can forgive.” Hammarskjold links our hope of mercy to our willingness to extend it. Not because forgiveness is a transaction, but because cynicism is contagious. If you can’t imagine forgiving another person’s worst moment, you’ll struggle to imagine anyone forgiving yours; the world hardens into a courtroom with no exits.
Context matters: Hammarskjold led the UN through crises where every “mistake” had bodies attached. His point isn’t therapeutic; it’s ethical. Forgiveness is framed as a discipline that makes moral life survivable - not by erasing wrongdoing, but by keeping the possibility of return open.
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| Topic | Forgiveness |
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Hammarskjold, Dag. (2026, January 15). To forgive oneself? No, that doesn't work: we have to be forgiven. But we can only believe this is possible if we ourselves can forgive. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/to-forgive-oneself-no-that-doesnt-work-we-have-to-5923/
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Hammarskjold, Dag. "To forgive oneself? No, that doesn't work: we have to be forgiven. But we can only believe this is possible if we ourselves can forgive." FixQuotes. January 15, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/to-forgive-oneself-no-that-doesnt-work-we-have-to-5923/.
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"To forgive oneself? No, that doesn't work: we have to be forgiven. But we can only believe this is possible if we ourselves can forgive." FixQuotes, 15 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/to-forgive-oneself-no-that-doesnt-work-we-have-to-5923/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.





