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Daily Inspiration Quote by Robert Baden-Powell

"To get a hold on boys you must be their friend"

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A recruiting slogan dressed up as tenderness, Baden-Powell's line flatters the listener with the promise of intimacy while quietly asserting control as the endgame. "Get a hold" is blunt, almost proprietary; it frames boys not as citizens in training but as material to be gripped, guided, shaped. The saving grace, and the danger, is the method: "you must be their friend". Friendship becomes a tactic, a softer glove for a firmer hand.

The context matters. Baden-Powell is a soldier-educator at the hinge of empire, when anxieties about national fitness, discipline, and masculinity were being routed through youth organizations. The Boy Scouts, which he helped build, offered an appealing alternative to the factory, the street, or the classroom: adventure, competence, belonging. In that climate, the quote functions as a manual for influence. It suggests adult authority can't simply be commanded; it has to be earned through proximity, shared play, and trust.

The subtext is paternalism with a smile. He's arguing that boys resist naked instruction but will accept direction from someone who feels like an ally. It's an early acknowledgement of what we'd now call relational leadership: credibility is social before it's institutional. Yet the phrase also exposes an ethical tension still live today in coaching, mentoring, and youth ministry: when does friendship become instrumental? Baden-Powell's brilliance is recognizing that loyalty is built, not imposed; his blind spot is how easily that insight can justify manipulation in the name of "character."

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APA Style (7th ed.)
Baden-Powell, Robert. (2026, January 18). To get a hold on boys you must be their friend. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/to-get-a-hold-on-boys-you-must-be-their-friend-17062/

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Baden-Powell, Robert. "To get a hold on boys you must be their friend." FixQuotes. January 18, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/to-get-a-hold-on-boys-you-must-be-their-friend-17062/.

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"To get a hold on boys you must be their friend." FixQuotes, 18 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/to-get-a-hold-on-boys-you-must-be-their-friend-17062/. Accessed 8 Feb. 2026.

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Robert Baden-Powell

Robert Baden-Powell (February 22, 1857 - January 8, 1941) was a Soldier from England.

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