"To have gone through so much work to heal myself and have my mother not acknowledge in any way that she was sorry for what had happened to me, broke my heart"
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The wording is carefully bare. She doesn’t demand reconciliation, only that her mother "acknowledge in any way" that she was sorry. That smallness is the point. Heche is describing how, for survivors of family harm, the emotional economy gets warped: you end up bargaining for crumbs of accountability because full ownership feels impossible. The mother’s silence becomes an active force, not a passive omission - a refusal to validate reality, leaving the child (even grown) holding both the pain and the burden of proof.
Subtextually, it’s also about the limits of the cultural script that says healing is an individual project. Heche did the work. The work didn’t fix the relationship, because the relationship requires another participant. The heartbreak lands because the apology isn’t just etiquette; it’s a recognition of her personhood. In the context of celebrity confession, it also reads as a refusal to convert trauma into a neat redemption arc. The sentence ends where many public narratives won’t: on the fact that some wounds stay open when the people who made them won’t name them.
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Heche, Anne. (2026, January 17). To have gone through so much work to heal myself and have my mother not acknowledge in any way that she was sorry for what had happened to me, broke my heart. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/to-have-gone-through-so-much-work-to-heal-myself-61938/
Chicago Style
Heche, Anne. "To have gone through so much work to heal myself and have my mother not acknowledge in any way that she was sorry for what had happened to me, broke my heart." FixQuotes. January 17, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/to-have-gone-through-so-much-work-to-heal-myself-61938/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"To have gone through so much work to heal myself and have my mother not acknowledge in any way that she was sorry for what had happened to me, broke my heart." FixQuotes, 17 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/to-have-gone-through-so-much-work-to-heal-myself-61938/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.


