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Success Quote by Charles Caleb Colton

"To know a man, observe how he wins his object, rather than how he loses it; for when we fail, our pride supports us - when we succeed, it betrays us"

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Success is the real lie detector, Colton insists, because it gives us room to be ourselves without the sympathetic cover story failure provides. When we lose, we can wrap the outcome in dignity: bad luck, noble effort, unfair rules, the tragedy of being too good for the world. Pride becomes a brace, holding up the self-image when reality buckles it. But when we win, the mask slips. Victory removes the need for self-defense and replaces it with permission: permission to take credit, to rewrite the past, to treat others as scenery, to reveal what we think we are owed.

Colton’s phrasing turns on a neat reversal. We usually treat failure as character’s crucible and success as its reward. He flips that moral logic: defeat is where people perform virtues; triumph is where they leak their vices. The subtext is unflattering and shrewdly social. Don’t judge someone by their heartbreak montage; watch their victory lap. Who do they thank? Who do they ignore? Do they become generous, or do they become entitled? The “object” matters less than the method: the tactics, the collateral damage, the appetite for domination dressed up as ambition.

The context fits Colton’s era: a Britain of rising bourgeois competition, patronage networks, and public moralizing, where reputation was both currency and theater. As an aphorist, he’s not building a system; he’s sharpening a blade. It’s advice disguised as cynicism: if you want to know someone’s ethics, don’t audit their excuses. Audit their celebrations.

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Colton, Charles Caleb. (2026, January 15). To know a man, observe how he wins his object, rather than how he loses it; for when we fail, our pride supports us - when we succeed, it betrays us. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/to-know-a-man-observe-how-he-wins-his-object-76098/

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Colton, Charles Caleb. "To know a man, observe how he wins his object, rather than how he loses it; for when we fail, our pride supports us - when we succeed, it betrays us." FixQuotes. January 15, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/to-know-a-man-observe-how-he-wins-his-object-76098/.

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"To know a man, observe how he wins his object, rather than how he loses it; for when we fail, our pride supports us - when we succeed, it betrays us." FixQuotes, 15 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/to-know-a-man-observe-how-he-wins-his-object-76098/. Accessed 21 Feb. 2026.

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Charles Caleb Colton

Charles Caleb Colton (January 1, 1780 - January 1, 1832) was a Writer from England.

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