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Love Quote by David Viscott

"To love and to be loved is to feel the sun from both sides"

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The line lands like a warm metaphor you can’t quite argue with: sunlight from both sides. Viscott, a pop-psychologist with a talent for compressing therapy into quotable clarity, isn’t defining love so much as marketing a nervous system state. “To love” is the outward beam, the risk, the agency; “to be loved” is the inward permission, the relief of not having to perform for survival. Put them together and you get a fantasy of total exposure without harm: fully seen, fully giving, no shadow.

That’s the subtext: most people live with shadows. We may care deeply but doubt our lovability, or we may be adored yet emotionally barricaded. Viscott’s image flatters the reader’s private sense of imbalance while offering a simple corrective: don’t settle for half-sun. It’s a therapeutic nudge disguised as poetry.

The wording is also strategically non-specific. No mention of sex, commitment, family, or time. “Love” here is a broad, secular balm that can be slotted into romance, friendship, or self-esteem work. That’s very late-20th-century psychology: feelings as the primary data, wellbeing as the aim, intimacy as a kind of emotional climate control.

Still, the metaphor carries a quiet insistence. Sunlight is life-giving, but it can burn. “From both sides” hints at reciprocity not as moral fairness but as metabolic necessity. Viscott’s intent is less sentimental than it sounds: mutual love isn’t decoration; it’s the condition under which people actually thaw.

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Later attribution: Stories I Wish They Taught in School Instead (Anil Thomas) modern compilationID: LJg-DwAAQBAJ
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Viscott, David. (2026, January 13). To love and to be loved is to feel the sun from both sides. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/to-love-and-to-be-loved-is-to-feel-the-sun-from-136014/

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Viscott, David. "To love and to be loved is to feel the sun from both sides." FixQuotes. January 13, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/to-love-and-to-be-loved-is-to-feel-the-sun-from-136014/.

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"To love and to be loved is to feel the sun from both sides." FixQuotes, 13 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/to-love-and-to-be-loved-is-to-feel-the-sun-from-136014/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.

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David Viscott

David Viscott (May 24, 1938 - October 10, 1996) was a Psychologist from USA.

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