"To love for the sake of being loved is human, but to love for the sake of loving is angelic"
About this Quote
Then comes the pivot: love “for the sake of loving.” It’s a tautology that lands like a dare. Loving becomes its own justification, stripped of outcome, audience, and reward. Calling that “angelic” doesn’t just flatter selflessness; it frames desire for reciprocity as a gravity the soul must overcome. The subtext is Christian-inflected without being doctrinal: charity over romance, agape over need, saintliness over sentiment. It’s also a bit of rhetorical seduction. By placing “angelic” in reach as an ideal, he invites readers to recast their emotional dependence as aspiration rather than weakness.
Context matters: Lamartine wrote in a 19th-century France saturated with Romantic intensity and post-revolutionary soul-searching, where emotion was both a personal truth and a public aesthetic. The line flatters the era’s taste for lofty interiority while quietly disciplining it: feel deeply, yes - but prove your depth by asking for nothing.
Quote Details
| Topic | Love |
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| Source | Verified source: Graziella (Alphonse de Lamartine, 1849)
Evidence: Aimer pour être aimé, c’est de l’homme ; mais aimer pour aimer c’est presque de l’ange. (Book text, page 57 in a later digitized edition; first appearance appears to be in Les Confidences (1849), where Graziella was originally serialized/included). The commonly circulated English version ('To love for the sake of being loved is human, but to love for the sake of loving is angelic') is a translation/paraphrase of the French line. I verified the French wording in Lamartine's Graziella. The line appears on page 57 of the digitized French text consulted. Evidence from bibliographic sources indicates Graziella first appeared in 1849 as part of Les Confidences, and was later published separately as Graziella in 1852. So the earliest verified primary-source publication I found is 1849, not a later quotation anthology. I did not verify a speech or oral source; the evidence supports a literary source. Other candidates (1) Alchemy is the quintessence in Nature’s highest correlati... (Helena Petrovna Blavatsky, Paracelsus, 2022) compilation98.3% ... To love for the sake of being loved is human , but to love for the sake of loving is angelic . • Let us enjoy the... |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Lamartine, Alphonse de. (2026, March 14). To love for the sake of being loved is human, but to love for the sake of loving is angelic. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/to-love-for-the-sake-of-being-loved-is-human-but-128858/
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Lamartine, Alphonse de. "To love for the sake of being loved is human, but to love for the sake of loving is angelic." FixQuotes. March 14, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/to-love-for-the-sake-of-being-loved-is-human-but-128858/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"To love for the sake of being loved is human, but to love for the sake of loving is angelic." FixQuotes, 14 Mar. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/to-love-for-the-sake-of-being-loved-is-human-but-128858/. Accessed 24 Mar. 2026.
















