"To make the child in your own image is a capital crime, for your image is not worth repeating. The child knows this and you know it. Consequently you hate each other"
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The subtext gets darker when Shapiro assigns knowledge to both parties. “The child knows this and you know it.” Children, in his telling, aren’t blank slates; they’re keen readers of adult fraudulence, able to smell the gap between what parents preach and what they settle for. Adults, meanwhile, recognize their own compromises but prefer the child not to notice. That shared awareness creates an intimate stalemate: the parent needs the child to validate the parent’s life choices; the child needs room to become someone else.
“Consequently you hate each other” is the deliberately brutal punchline. Hate here isn’t constant rage; it’s the low-grade resentment that builds when love is made conditional on obedience. Shapiro, writing out of a 20th-century skepticism about authority and inherited scripts, turns the family into a miniature culture war: tradition versus escape, pride versus honesty, legacy versus freedom.
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Shapiro, Karl. (2026, January 16). To make the child in your own image is a capital crime, for your image is not worth repeating. The child knows this and you know it. Consequently you hate each other. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/to-make-the-child-in-your-own-image-is-a-capital-92353/
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Shapiro, Karl. "To make the child in your own image is a capital crime, for your image is not worth repeating. The child knows this and you know it. Consequently you hate each other." FixQuotes. January 16, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/to-make-the-child-in-your-own-image-is-a-capital-92353/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"To make the child in your own image is a capital crime, for your image is not worth repeating. The child knows this and you know it. Consequently you hate each other." FixQuotes, 16 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/to-make-the-child-in-your-own-image-is-a-capital-92353/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.









