"To me, being grown-up meant smoking cigarettes, drinking cocktails, and dressing up in high heels and glamourous outfits"
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Adulthood, in Lorna Luft's telling, arrives not as responsibility but as costume: smoke, booze, heels, and the glossy armor of a "glamourous" outfit. The line is doing two things at once. On the surface, it's a candid memory of what felt sophisticated. Underneath, it's an x-ray of show-business socialization, where maturity gets coded as presentation and appetite, not autonomy.
Luft comes from a world where performance isn't confined to the stage. As the daughter of Judy Garland, she grew up around adult rooms, adult rituals, adult damage - spaces where a girl could watch charisma pass for control and vice pass for worldliness. Cigarettes and cocktails aren't random props; they're shorthand for belonging. They signal entry into a club that looks powerful from the doorway, especially if you're young and already learning that attention is currency.
The quote also exposes how femininity gets marketed as a rite of passage. High heels and glamour read like empowerment until you notice the trade: the body becomes the proof. "Being grown-up" is framed as being consumable, legible, correctly styled for an audience. Luft isn't preaching; she's confessing how easy it is to mistake imitation for initiation.
The specific intent feels less like nostalgia than diagnosis. It's a snapshot of a mid-century cultural script - Hollywood-adjacent, image-forward, soaked in adult indulgence - that taught girls to chase an aesthetic of adulthood before they had the protections, boundaries, or selfhood that adulthood is supposed to provide.
Luft comes from a world where performance isn't confined to the stage. As the daughter of Judy Garland, she grew up around adult rooms, adult rituals, adult damage - spaces where a girl could watch charisma pass for control and vice pass for worldliness. Cigarettes and cocktails aren't random props; they're shorthand for belonging. They signal entry into a club that looks powerful from the doorway, especially if you're young and already learning that attention is currency.
The quote also exposes how femininity gets marketed as a rite of passage. High heels and glamour read like empowerment until you notice the trade: the body becomes the proof. "Being grown-up" is framed as being consumable, legible, correctly styled for an audience. Luft isn't preaching; she's confessing how easy it is to mistake imitation for initiation.
The specific intent feels less like nostalgia than diagnosis. It's a snapshot of a mid-century cultural script - Hollywood-adjacent, image-forward, soaked in adult indulgence - that taught girls to chase an aesthetic of adulthood before they had the protections, boundaries, or selfhood that adulthood is supposed to provide.
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| Topic | Youth |
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