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Love Quote by Erich Segal

"True love comes quietly, without banners or flashing lights. If you hear bells, get your ears checked"

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Segal’s line performs a neat little bait-and-switch: it opens like a greeting card, then swerves into a slap. “True love comes quietly” flatters the reader’s desire to be serious, grown-up, not seduced by spectacle. Then the second sentence detonates the mood with a dry, almost surgical gag: if you’re hearing “bells,” you’re not romantic, you’re malfunctioning. The joke isn’t just there to be clever; it’s a way of policing fantasy. Segal is warning that the culture of love-as-event - the big entrance, the movie score, the public display - can drown out the only evidence that actually matters: consistency, attention, the untelevised work of caring for another person.

The subtext is faintly accusatory. If you need banners and flashing lights, you may be in love with the performance of love, not the person. “Quietly” isn’t coyness; it’s a claim about signal versus noise. Real attachment often looks boring from the outside because it doesn’t need witnesses. It doesn’t announce itself; it accumulates.

Context matters here: Segal wrote in and around an era when romance was being industrialized into montage and merchandising, even as his own work (“Love Story”) helped define mainstream romantic expectation. This reads like a corrective from inside the factory. He knows how the soundtrack works, so he’s telling you not to trust it. The best part is that he doesn’t preach. He diagnoses. If it’s loud, check your ears.

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Segal, Erich. (2026, January 15). True love comes quietly, without banners or flashing lights. If you hear bells, get your ears checked. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/true-love-comes-quietly-without-banners-or-144910/

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Segal, Erich. "True love comes quietly, without banners or flashing lights. If you hear bells, get your ears checked." FixQuotes. January 15, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/true-love-comes-quietly-without-banners-or-144910/.

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"True love comes quietly, without banners or flashing lights. If you hear bells, get your ears checked." FixQuotes, 15 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/true-love-comes-quietly-without-banners-or-144910/. Accessed 8 Feb. 2026.

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Erich Segal

Erich Segal (June 16, 1937 - January 17, 2010) was a Novelist from USA.

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