"True love is both loving and letting oneself be loved. It is harder to let ourselves be loved than it is to love"
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The intent is pastoral but also diagnostic. Francis often critiques the modern reflex toward self-sufficiency and performance, and this line targets the ego’s favorite loophole: you can keep loving others while still refusing intimacy. Loving can be a form of mastery (I give, I choose, I remain the strong one). Receiving love forces you to accept need, dependence, and the possibility of disappointment. It also obliges gratitude, which is a subtler kind of humility than sacrifice. Sacrifice can inflate the self; gratitude punctures it.
The subtext is Catholic to the core. Christianity insists that grace arrives first, unearned; the believer’s job is not to manufacture worthiness but to consent to being claimed. Francis is also speaking into brokenness: people who feel unlovable, who turn charity into armor, who can serve endlessly yet cannot accept care. The line reframes “true love” as reciprocal vulnerability, not a one-way donation. In that reciprocity sits his wider social theology: a church, and a world, healed less by grand gestures than by the courage to receive.
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Francis, Pope. (2026, January 15). True love is both loving and letting oneself be loved. It is harder to let ourselves be loved than it is to love. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/true-love-is-both-loving-and-letting-oneself-be-172302/
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Francis, Pope. "True love is both loving and letting oneself be loved. It is harder to let ourselves be loved than it is to love." FixQuotes. January 15, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/true-love-is-both-loving-and-letting-oneself-be-172302/.
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"True love is both loving and letting oneself be loved. It is harder to let ourselves be loved than it is to love." FixQuotes, 15 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/true-love-is-both-loving-and-letting-oneself-be-172302/. Accessed 21 Feb. 2026.










