"Truth should not be forced; it should simply manifest itself, like a woman who has in her privacy reflected and coolly decided to bestow herself upon a certain man"
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That’s classic Updike: intimate, observant, and quietly proprietorial. His fiction often lingers on the textures of desire and the ways men narrate women as mysteries whose inner lives are legible only at the moment of access. Here, the language of “privacy” and “bestowal” doesn’t just evoke eroticism; it proposes an ethics of knowing where the knower’s restraint is rewarded with revelation. The subtext is that coercion is vulgar and counterproductive, but pursuit is still the default posture.
Context matters. Updike wrote in a literary culture that prized male interiority and treated heterosexual conquest as a metaphorical Swiss Army knife for everything from faith to art. Read now, the sentence lands with a double edge: it’s an argument for letting insight arrive on its own terms, and an inadvertent snapshot of the gendered assumptions that once made that argument feel natural. The wit is in the glide; the discomfort is in where it glides.
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Updike, John. (2026, January 18). Truth should not be forced; it should simply manifest itself, like a woman who has in her privacy reflected and coolly decided to bestow herself upon a certain man. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/truth-should-not-be-forced-it-should-simply-10523/
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Updike, John. "Truth should not be forced; it should simply manifest itself, like a woman who has in her privacy reflected and coolly decided to bestow herself upon a certain man." FixQuotes. January 18, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/truth-should-not-be-forced-it-should-simply-10523/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"Truth should not be forced; it should simply manifest itself, like a woman who has in her privacy reflected and coolly decided to bestow herself upon a certain man." FixQuotes, 18 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/truth-should-not-be-forced-it-should-simply-10523/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.











