"We all need a past - that's where our sense of identity comes from"
About this Quote
The subtext is classically Lively: a novelist’s suspicion of clean slates and heroic reinvention. Fiction, after all, runs on the pressure between who people think they are and what actually shaped them. By insisting identity “comes from” the past, she points to origins as both gift and constraint. Your past provides continuity, but it also limits the range of identities that feel believable to you. That tension is where character lives - and where real life gets messy.
Context matters here because Lively is a writer steeped in English history and in the intimate archaeology of places and families. Her work often treats landscape, objects, and domestic detail as time machines: the present is always standing on buried layers. This quote reads like a rebuttal to the modern fantasy that we can outrun history with enough branding, therapy-speak, or curated feeds. Lively isn’t romanticizing the past; she’s arguing that it’s the raw material of selfhood, and that denying it doesn’t erase it - it just hands your identity over to amnesia, myth, or manipulation.
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| Topic | Nostalgia |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Lively, Penelope. (2026, January 15). We all need a past - that's where our sense of identity comes from. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/we-all-need-a-past-thats-where-our-sense-of-85712/
Chicago Style
Lively, Penelope. "We all need a past - that's where our sense of identity comes from." FixQuotes. January 15, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/we-all-need-a-past-thats-where-our-sense-of-85712/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"We all need a past - that's where our sense of identity comes from." FixQuotes, 15 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/we-all-need-a-past-thats-where-our-sense-of-85712/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.









