"We all perform our lives in a way. And the actor is a perfect metaphor to get at that theme of 'how do we find our authentic selves?' And that we all - whether we're actors or not - perform ourselves. As a way of searching. As a way of fumbling around and trying to say, is this my voice? Is this who I am?"
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The subtext is a quiet defense of performance as sincerity’s workshop. Bening pushes back against the pop binary that treats “authenticity” as a fixed core you either reveal or betray. Instead, authenticity is something you locate through iteration: “searching,” “fumbling around,” trying on a voice, discarding it, trying again. That language matters. It denies the fantasy of instant self-knowledge and admits that identity is often an aftereffect, something that congeals only once you’ve lived it.
Contextually, it’s a particularly actorly form of cultural critique. In an era of personal branding, social media personas, and workplace politeness as professional armor, “performance” can sound like hypocrisy. Bening insists it can also be honest labor: a way to move through uncertainty without pretending you’re certain. Her question “is this my voice?” lands because it’s both artistic and ordinary. The actor’s dilemma becomes the audience’s, and the metaphor flatters no one: we’re all improvising, hoping the part eventually fits.
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Bening, Annette. (2026, January 15). We all perform our lives in a way. And the actor is a perfect metaphor to get at that theme of 'how do we find our authentic selves?' And that we all - whether we're actors or not - perform ourselves. As a way of searching. As a way of fumbling around and trying to say, is this my voice? Is this who I am? FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/we-all-perform-our-lives-in-a-way-and-the-actor-135367/
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Bening, Annette. "We all perform our lives in a way. And the actor is a perfect metaphor to get at that theme of 'how do we find our authentic selves?' And that we all - whether we're actors or not - perform ourselves. As a way of searching. As a way of fumbling around and trying to say, is this my voice? Is this who I am?" FixQuotes. January 15, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/we-all-perform-our-lives-in-a-way-and-the-actor-135367/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"We all perform our lives in a way. And the actor is a perfect metaphor to get at that theme of 'how do we find our authentic selves?' And that we all - whether we're actors or not - perform ourselves. As a way of searching. As a way of fumbling around and trying to say, is this my voice? Is this who I am?" FixQuotes, 15 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/we-all-perform-our-lives-in-a-way-and-the-actor-135367/. Accessed 16 Feb. 2026.







