"We are never more discontented with others than when we are discontented with ourselves"
About this Quote
The phrasing is quietly brutal. “Never more” makes it a lawlike observation rather than advice. “Discontented” does double duty: it’s not righteous anger or principled critique, but a low-grade, persistent sourness. That choice strips the ego of its favorite costume - indignation. Amiel implies that the spike in judgment isn’t a sign of discernment; it’s a symptom.
Context matters: Amiel, a 19th-century Swiss moral psychologist before the term existed, wrote from the introspective tradition of diaries and self-scrutiny. In a Europe obsessed with character, duty, and the inner life, he’s diagnosing the everyday mechanics of scapegoating without the drama of sin or salvation. The subtext is both ethical and practical: if you want your relationships to feel less irritating, don’t start by policing everyone else. Start by asking what inside you is hungry, thwarted, or ashamed - and why you’d rather outsource that discomfort to the nearest human being.
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| Topic | Self-Improvement |
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Amiel, Henri Frederic. (2026, January 17). We are never more discontented with others than when we are discontented with ourselves. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/we-are-never-more-discontented-with-others-than-60675/
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Amiel, Henri Frederic. "We are never more discontented with others than when we are discontented with ourselves." FixQuotes. January 17, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/we-are-never-more-discontented-with-others-than-60675/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"We are never more discontented with others than when we are discontented with ourselves." FixQuotes, 17 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/we-are-never-more-discontented-with-others-than-60675/. Accessed 19 Feb. 2026.












