"We are who we're going to be when we're very old, and when we're very old we are who we were when we were 8"
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As an actress, Streep is also quietly talking craft. Acting depends on the strange truth that you don’t manufacture a self from scratch; you excavate one. The eight-year-old is the raw archive: the instincts, fixations, fears, the private logic of what feels safe or thrilling. Age, in this framing, doesn’t erase that material; it strips away the strategic adult scaffolding built to manage it. When you’re “very old,” the social incentives that keep you curated - ambition, seduction, professional competence, the performance of having it together - lose their grip. What’s left looks suspiciously like childhood: blunt honesty, stubborn preferences, unedited emotion.
The intent isn’t fatalism so much as a warning about what’s worth refining. You can change habits, politics, even your class position, but the deeper engine - what you reach for under stress, what you crave, what you avoid - tends to persist. Streep’s subtext is compassionate, not bleak: if you’re going to become yourself anyway, you might as well stop treating your earliest self as embarrassing evidence and start treating it as a map.
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| Topic | Aging |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Streep, Meryl. (2026, January 17). We are who we're going to be when we're very old, and when we're very old we are who we were when we were 8. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/we-are-who-were-going-to-be-when-were-very-old-28691/
Chicago Style
Streep, Meryl. "We are who we're going to be when we're very old, and when we're very old we are who we were when we were 8." FixQuotes. January 17, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/we-are-who-were-going-to-be-when-were-very-old-28691/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"We are who we're going to be when we're very old, and when we're very old we are who we were when we were 8." FixQuotes, 17 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/we-are-who-were-going-to-be-when-were-very-old-28691/. Accessed 4 Feb. 2026.







