"We confess our bad qualities to others out of fear of appearing naive or ridiculous by not being aware of them"
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Brenan’s key word is “fear,” which shifts the scene from ethics to status. In a room full of people, the worst sin isn’t having bad qualities; it’s seeming too innocent to know you have them. Naivete reads as incompetence, and “ridiculous” is the social death penalty. So we confess not to be forgiven but to be taken seriously. The subtext is bleakly modern: authenticity becomes a tactic, not a virtue.
Context matters here. Brenan, a British writer who spent much of his life among artists, expatriates, and sharp-tongued intellectual circles, understood how self-presentation hardens into a form of currency. In those milieus, being “in on it” counts. To be unaware of your own worst tendencies is to invite others to define you, publicly and with relish. His sentence captures a paradox of cultured conversation: the performance of candor often serves the same end as boasting. It signals sophistication, not repentance.
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| Topic | Honesty & Integrity |
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Brenan, Gerald. (2026, January 15). We confess our bad qualities to others out of fear of appearing naive or ridiculous by not being aware of them. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/we-confess-our-bad-qualities-to-others-out-of-94515/
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Brenan, Gerald. "We confess our bad qualities to others out of fear of appearing naive or ridiculous by not being aware of them." FixQuotes. January 15, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/we-confess-our-bad-qualities-to-others-out-of-94515/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"We confess our bad qualities to others out of fear of appearing naive or ridiculous by not being aware of them." FixQuotes, 15 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/we-confess-our-bad-qualities-to-others-out-of-94515/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.





