"We don't do drugs, drink or use profanity. Instead we instill morals and values in my boys by raising them with a love of God and a love and respect for themselves and all people. I believe they will have a chance"
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The line lands like a quiet flex: in an industry that often sells transgression as authenticity, Anita Baker frames discipline as its own kind of rebellion. She doesn’t just list boundaries ("don't do drugs, drink or use profanity") as house rules; she positions them as a worldview, a deliberate counter-script to the idea that talent comes packaged with chaos. The phrasing matters. "Instead" isn’t moral panic, it’s substitution: swap spectacle for structure, swap being consumed by the culture for choosing what your family consumes.
The subtext is protection, but also image management. A Black woman artist who came up in an era that loved to mythologize singers as tragic or unruly is staking out a different narrative: stability as agency. By naming "a love of God" alongside "respect for themselves and all people", she’s fusing faith with self-regard and civic decency, widening morality beyond private purity. That move resists the common reduction of religion to rules; it’s presented as a toolkit for dignity.
"I believe they will have a chance" is the softest and sharpest part. It admits the world isn’t fair, that parenting doesn’t guarantee outcomes, that temptation and systems can outmuscle intention. She’s not promising success; she’s arguing for odds. In a culture that romanticizes breaking limits, Baker makes a case for keeping them - not as repression, but as a way to buy your kids room to breathe, choose, and survive.
The subtext is protection, but also image management. A Black woman artist who came up in an era that loved to mythologize singers as tragic or unruly is staking out a different narrative: stability as agency. By naming "a love of God" alongside "respect for themselves and all people", she’s fusing faith with self-regard and civic decency, widening morality beyond private purity. That move resists the common reduction of religion to rules; it’s presented as a toolkit for dignity.
"I believe they will have a chance" is the softest and sharpest part. It admits the world isn’t fair, that parenting doesn’t guarantee outcomes, that temptation and systems can outmuscle intention. She’s not promising success; she’s arguing for odds. In a culture that romanticizes breaking limits, Baker makes a case for keeping them - not as repression, but as a way to buy your kids room to breathe, choose, and survive.
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