"We don’t get to choose the hard things that happen to us, but we can choose how we respond"
About this Quote
The intent is reassurance that doesn’t condescend. Coming from a journalist and morning-show figure whose public life has always carried the shadow of national tragedy and scrutiny, the subtext reads like a survival ethic for living under forces larger than oneself: politics, grief, public narratives, private disappointments. It also functions as a clean piece of broadcast-ready wisdom, the kind that can hold an audience of strangers together for 10 seconds without requiring shared ideology.
What makes it work is its careful limitation. “Respond” is vague on purpose. It leaves room for anger, boundaries, therapy, faith, silence, action. That openness is strategic: it invites identification rather than argument. The line also subtly redirects blame. Hard things aren’t your fault; your response is your responsibility. In a culture addicted to both victimhood and self-optimization, it threads the needle: no innocence cosplay, no toxic positivity - just a sober, usable kind of hope.
Quote Details
| Topic | Resilience |
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| Source | Everything Beautiful in Its Time: Seasons of Love and Loss (2020) by Jenna Bush Hager |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Hager, Jenna Bush. (2026, January 26). We don’t get to choose the hard things that happen to us, but we can choose how we respond. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/we-dont-get-to-choose-the-hard-things-that-happen-184586/
Chicago Style
Hager, Jenna Bush. "We don’t get to choose the hard things that happen to us, but we can choose how we respond." FixQuotes. January 26, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/we-dont-get-to-choose-the-hard-things-that-happen-184586/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"We don’t get to choose the hard things that happen to us, but we can choose how we respond." FixQuotes, 26 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/we-dont-get-to-choose-the-hard-things-that-happen-184586/. Accessed 9 Feb. 2026.



