"We gain nothing by being with such as ourselves. We encourage one another in mediocrity. I am always longing to be with men more excellent than myself"
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Lamb’s line is a small manifesto against the cozy tyranny of sameness. It sounds, at first blush, like a self-improvement slogan, but the real bite is social: he’s diagnosing how groups quietly agree to keep one another small. “Such as ourselves” isn’t just a personality type; it’s a whole ecology of peers who share habits, taste, class assumptions, and complacencies. Put enough of them in a room and “mediocrity” stops being an insult and becomes a culture: the in-jokes, the mutual forgiveness, the permission to stay unchallenged.
The intent is partly aspirational, partly corrective. Lamb is a critic by trade, which means he’s professionally allergic to unexamined consensus. He knows how easy it is to confuse belonging with merit, to mistake the warmth of recognition for the friction that produces growth. The sentence “We encourage one another in mediocrity” is especially revealing: mediocrity isn’t framed as an individual failure so much as a shared project, something we actively sustain because it’s comfortable.
There’s subtexted humility in the blunt confession “more excellent than myself.” Lamb isn’t posturing as an outsider-genius; he’s admitting need. That admission matters in his period, when salons, clubs, and literary circles were both engines of wit and machines of conformity. He’s praising the virtue of upward social and intellectual pressure: proximity to sharper minds as a moral discipline. In a culture obsessed with status, Lamb smuggles in a better metric: excellence as something contagious, but only if you’re willing to feel outmatched.
The intent is partly aspirational, partly corrective. Lamb is a critic by trade, which means he’s professionally allergic to unexamined consensus. He knows how easy it is to confuse belonging with merit, to mistake the warmth of recognition for the friction that produces growth. The sentence “We encourage one another in mediocrity” is especially revealing: mediocrity isn’t framed as an individual failure so much as a shared project, something we actively sustain because it’s comfortable.
There’s subtexted humility in the blunt confession “more excellent than myself.” Lamb isn’t posturing as an outsider-genius; he’s admitting need. That admission matters in his period, when salons, clubs, and literary circles were both engines of wit and machines of conformity. He’s praising the virtue of upward social and intellectual pressure: proximity to sharper minds as a moral discipline. In a culture obsessed with status, Lamb smuggles in a better metric: excellence as something contagious, but only if you’re willing to feel outmatched.
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