"We have to achieve what we can, and if we haven't yet learned that we are not always going to get our way this could be frustrating"
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The second clause does the sharper work. “If we haven’t yet learned” slips in a parent’s tone, recasting ideological rigidity as immaturity. Northup isn’t merely describing frustration; she’s diagnosing it as a failure to accept the basic physics of democracy: multiple constituencies, competing incentives, and institutional veto points. The implied audience isn’t just the opposition, but allies who arrive in Washington expecting the moral clarity of campaigns to translate into the mechanical certainty of governing.
Context matters here because Northup’s career in Congress unfolded during an era of rising polarization and constant media scrutiny, when “getting our way” became a branding strategy, not just a legislative goal. Her phrasing anticipates a modern pathology: politics as personalized grievance. By naming frustration as the predictable byproduct of unrealistic expectations, she’s trying to de-dramatize conflict and re-center competence. The quote works because it refuses the dopamine hit of maximalist rhetoric and instead offers a tougher, less marketable virtue: patience with imperfect wins.
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Northup, Anne. (2026, January 17). We have to achieve what we can, and if we haven't yet learned that we are not always going to get our way this could be frustrating. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/we-have-to-achieve-what-we-can-and-if-we-havent-43478/
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Northup, Anne. "We have to achieve what we can, and if we haven't yet learned that we are not always going to get our way this could be frustrating." FixQuotes. January 17, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/we-have-to-achieve-what-we-can-and-if-we-havent-43478/.
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"We have to achieve what we can, and if we haven't yet learned that we are not always going to get our way this could be frustrating." FixQuotes, 17 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/we-have-to-achieve-what-we-can-and-if-we-havent-43478/. Accessed 17 Feb. 2026.









