"We judge ourselves by what we feel capable of doing, while others judge us by what we have already done"
About this Quote
As a poet working in a 19th-century America obsessed with moral character and social reputation, Longfellow understood how identity hardens into narrative. In a culture where “standing” mattered, what you had already done could become a life sentence. His phrasing is deceptively plain, built on parallel clauses that feel balanced but aren’t: “capable” is elastic, forward-leaning, and psychologically generous; “already done” is fixed, backward-looking, and socially legible. The sentence itself performs the trap. We live in potential; we’re evaluated in artifact.
The subtext is both consoling and accusatory. Consoling, because it gives language to the loneliness of being misread. Accusatory, because it exposes how often we hide in potential as a way to dodge accountability. Longfellow isn’t just defending the dreamers; he’s diagnosing the bargain of modern identity: you can imagine yourself endlessly, but the world will charge admission in receipts.
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Longfellow, Henry Wadsworth. (2026, January 17). We judge ourselves by what we feel capable of doing, while others judge us by what we have already done. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/we-judge-ourselves-by-what-we-feel-capable-of-34035/
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Longfellow, Henry Wadsworth. "We judge ourselves by what we feel capable of doing, while others judge us by what we have already done." FixQuotes. January 17, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/we-judge-ourselves-by-what-we-feel-capable-of-34035/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"We judge ourselves by what we feel capable of doing, while others judge us by what we have already done." FixQuotes, 17 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/we-judge-ourselves-by-what-we-feel-capable-of-34035/. Accessed 16 Feb. 2026.








