"We learn the inner secret of happiness when we learn to direct our inner drives, our interest and our attention to something besides ourselves"
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The subtext pushes back against the cultural script that treats self-focus as self-care. Andrus suggests the opposite: the self, left as the main project, becomes a closed system - anxious, ruminative, easily destabilized. Shifting attention “to something besides ourselves” functions as a psychological escape hatch and a moral stance. You stop auditioning your own life for meaning and start producing meaning in public.
Context matters. As an activist best known for founding the National Retired Teachers Association and AARP, Andrus worked in a world where individual hardship was often structural: aging, insecurity, invisibility. Her sentence reads like a rebuttal to the loneliness and status-loss that can come with later life, but it also speaks to any era where people are trained to see themselves as isolated consumers of happiness. It’s a compact case for civic engagement as emotional strategy: purpose is not found by introspection alone, but by attaching your attention to work, people, and problems that pull you outward.
Quote Details
| Topic | Happiness |
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| Source | Later attribution: The Words of Extraordinary Women (Carolyn Warner, 2010) modern compilationISBN: 9781459602519 · ID: 7u7Q75shOlQC
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... We learn the inner secret of happiness when we learn to direct our inner drives , our interest and our attention to something besides ourselves . ” -ETHEL PERCY ANDRUS " The true Republic : men : their rights and nothing more ; women ... |
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Andrus, Ethel Percy. (2026, February 9). We learn the inner secret of happiness when we learn to direct our inner drives, our interest and our attention to something besides ourselves. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/we-learn-the-inner-secret-of-happiness-when-we-162989/
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Andrus, Ethel Percy. "We learn the inner secret of happiness when we learn to direct our inner drives, our interest and our attention to something besides ourselves." FixQuotes. February 9, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/we-learn-the-inner-secret-of-happiness-when-we-162989/.
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"We learn the inner secret of happiness when we learn to direct our inner drives, our interest and our attention to something besides ourselves." FixQuotes, 9 Feb. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/we-learn-the-inner-secret-of-happiness-when-we-162989/. Accessed 18 Feb. 2026.








