"We seldom praise anyone in good earnest, except such as admire us"
About this Quote
The subtext is court politics distilled to a single barb. La Rochefoucauld wrote in a 17th-century France where reputation was currency and speech was a form of maneuvering. Compliments weren’t free-floating expressions of goodwill; they were tools for alliance, insurance against insult, and bids for status. If you praise someone who admires you, you’re not just being kind, you’re stabilizing a feedback loop that keeps your own social value inflated. Praise becomes less about the praised and more about the praiser securing an audience.
“Good earnest” sharpens the knife. He’s not denying that praise happens; he’s denying its sincerity. The wit comes from reversing the usual moral hierarchy: we like to imagine admiration flows outward toward merit, but he frames it as inward, toward reflected glory. It’s a one-sentence exposure of how even our supposedly generous gestures are contaminated by self-interest, especially in public life where every compliment is also a small performance of taste, belonging, and power.
Quote Details
| Topic | Wisdom |
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| Source | Maxims (Maximes), Francois de La Rochefoucauld, first published 1665 — aphorism from his collection of moral maxims commonly translated in English as shown. |
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Rochefoucauld, Francois de La. (2026, January 18). We seldom praise anyone in good earnest, except such as admire us. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/we-seldom-praise-anyone-in-good-earnest-except-16177/
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Rochefoucauld, Francois de La. "We seldom praise anyone in good earnest, except such as admire us." FixQuotes. January 18, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/we-seldom-praise-anyone-in-good-earnest-except-16177/.
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"We seldom praise anyone in good earnest, except such as admire us." FixQuotes, 18 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/we-seldom-praise-anyone-in-good-earnest-except-16177/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.









