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Leadership Quote by Abraham Lincoln

"We should be too big to take offense and too noble to give it"

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Lincoln is selling moral strength as a form of political strategy. "Too big" isn’t about ego; it’s about scale. A nation tearing itself apart over slights and insults can’t afford leaders who govern from wounded pride. By framing offense as something small people clutch and large people outgrow, he turns self-control into a measure of legitimacy. The line flatters the listener into discipline: if you take offense, you’ve confessed you’re not "big" enough.

The second clause sharpens the blade. "Too noble to give it" makes restraint active, not passive. It’s an ethic of citizenship as much as statesmanship: don’t just swallow insults; refuse to manufacture them. In Lincoln’s America, where partisan newspapers routinely trafficked in humiliation and personal attack, "giving offense" was a common political currency. He’s arguing that cruelty is a cheap substitute for argument, and that democratic life collapses when contempt becomes the default language.

The subtext is national repair. Lincoln’s rhetoric often performed what it demanded: firmness without spite, authority without swagger. This sentence sketches the emotional posture required for a republic under strain - especially in the shadow of sectional conflict, where every perceived insult could be converted into grievance and then into violence. The genius is its quiet reversal of the era’s honor culture. Instead of defending dignity through retaliation, Lincoln redefines dignity as the ability to absorb provocation and still choose decency. That’s not softness; it’s power with a conscience.

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Lincoln, Abraham. (n.d.). We should be too big to take offense and too noble to give it. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/we-should-be-too-big-to-take-offense-and-too-33862/

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Lincoln, Abraham. "We should be too big to take offense and too noble to give it." FixQuotes. Accessed February 3, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/we-should-be-too-big-to-take-offense-and-too-33862/.

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Abraham Lincoln (February 12, 1809 - April 15, 1865) was a President from USA.

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