"We should be too big to take offense and too noble to give it"
About this Quote
The second clause sharpens the blade. "Too noble to give it" makes restraint active, not passive. It’s an ethic of citizenship as much as statesmanship: don’t just swallow insults; refuse to manufacture them. In Lincoln’s America, where partisan newspapers routinely trafficked in humiliation and personal attack, "giving offense" was a common political currency. He’s arguing that cruelty is a cheap substitute for argument, and that democratic life collapses when contempt becomes the default language.
The subtext is national repair. Lincoln’s rhetoric often performed what it demanded: firmness without spite, authority without swagger. This sentence sketches the emotional posture required for a republic under strain - especially in the shadow of sectional conflict, where every perceived insult could be converted into grievance and then into violence. The genius is its quiet reversal of the era’s honor culture. Instead of defending dignity through retaliation, Lincoln redefines dignity as the ability to absorb provocation and still choose decency. That’s not softness; it’s power with a conscience.
Quote Details
| Topic | Forgiveness |
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| Source | Later attribution: Wisdom for the Soul (Larry Chang, 2006) modern compilationISBN: 9780977339105 · ID: -T3QhPjIxhIC
Evidence:
... We should be too big to take offense and too noble to give it . ~ Abraham Lincoln , 1809-1865 ~ All truths wait in all things , They neither hasten their own delivery nor resist it . They do not need the obstetric forceps of the surgeon ... |
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