"We talk a lot in our home together about where we're going, what I'm doing"
About this Quote
The syntax does the work. "We" leads, not "I". Even when the sentence pivots to "what I'm doing", it arrives after the shared mapmaking of "where we're going". That's a strategic inoculation against the familiar backlash: she isn't leaving the family behind; she is steering with them. It's also a subtle claim of authority. People who don't have agency don't get to "talk a lot" about direction; they cope. The insistence on conversation implies control, planning, and mutual respect.
Context matters: Gates is a globally visible philanthropist and public figure whose decisions are scrutinized as moral choices. In that light, the home becomes a credibility engine. She isn't asking for permission; she's showing her homework. The subtext is modern marriage as governance: values debated, trade-offs acknowledged, futures drafted in dialogue. (Also, calling her a clergyman miscasts the cultural role she's signaling here: not spiritual leader, but architect of a shared life under public pressure.)
Quote Details
| Topic | Husband & Wife |
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| Source | Help us find the source |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Gates, Melinda. (2026, January 16). We talk a lot in our home together about where we're going, what I'm doing. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/we-talk-a-lot-in-our-home-together-about-where-108394/
Chicago Style
Gates, Melinda. "We talk a lot in our home together about where we're going, what I'm doing." FixQuotes. January 16, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/we-talk-a-lot-in-our-home-together-about-where-108394/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"We talk a lot in our home together about where we're going, what I'm doing." FixQuotes, 16 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/we-talk-a-lot-in-our-home-together-about-where-108394/. Accessed 10 Feb. 2026.








