"We treat sex so casually and use it for everything but what it is-which is ultimately making another human being with thoughts and feelings and rights"
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Her intent isn’t abstinence preaching; it’s accountability. By saying we use sex for “everything but what it is,” she’s indicting a consumer logic that strips intimacy of consequence and turns bodies into low-stakes content. The subtext: calling sex “casual” often isn’t liberation so much as a way to dodge responsibility, especially when the responsibility can be asymmetrical (gendered, economic, emotional). It’s an argument against the fantasy that you can have the act without the aftermath.
Context matters with Kudrow: a comedian known for playing breezy eccentricity on Friends, speaking with the authority of someone who’s watched pop culture industrialize romance, hookups, and pregnancy plotlines into entertainment. The sharpest move is her final clause: “another human being with thoughts and feelings and rights.” She doesn’t romanticize babies; she politicizes them. “Rights” yanks reproduction out of private morality and into civic reality, reminding us that the “casual” choice can create a person the world must then treat seriously.
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Kudrow, Lisa. (2026, January 17). We treat sex so casually and use it for everything but what it is-which is ultimately making another human being with thoughts and feelings and rights. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/we-treat-sex-so-casually-and-use-it-for-81411/
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Kudrow, Lisa. "We treat sex so casually and use it for everything but what it is-which is ultimately making another human being with thoughts and feelings and rights." FixQuotes. January 17, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/we-treat-sex-so-casually-and-use-it-for-81411/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"We treat sex so casually and use it for everything but what it is-which is ultimately making another human being with thoughts and feelings and rights." FixQuotes, 17 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/we-treat-sex-so-casually-and-use-it-for-81411/. Accessed 19 Feb. 2026.







