"We win by tenderness. We conquer by forgiveness"
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As a 19th-century Anglican clergyman, Robertson is speaking into a culture steeped in Victorian moral seriousness, class rigidity, and a national story of British might. The subtext is a critique of coercion dressed up as spirituality: if you need to crush someone to “win,” you’ve already lost the more consequential contest, the one over character. “Tenderness” here isn’t softness for its own sake; it’s strategic intimacy, a willingness to see another person clearly enough to treat them as human rather than as an obstacle. “Forgiveness” isn’t amnesia. It’s the refusal to let injury dictate the future.
The pairing matters. Tenderness is proactive; it prevents conflicts from hardening into war. Forgiveness is reactive; it breaks the cycle once harm has already happened. Together they form a moral alternative to escalation: power that persuades rather than compels, authority that disarms rather than humiliates. Robertson’s intent is pastoral, but the rhetoric is quietly radical: he’s offering a different definition of conquest, one measured not in submission extracted, but in resentment dissolved.
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| Topic | Forgiveness |
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Robertson, Frederick William. (2026, January 15). We win by tenderness. We conquer by forgiveness. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/we-win-by-tenderness-we-conquer-by-forgiveness-169395/
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Robertson, Frederick William. "We win by tenderness. We conquer by forgiveness." FixQuotes. January 15, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/we-win-by-tenderness-we-conquer-by-forgiveness-169395/.
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"We win by tenderness. We conquer by forgiveness." FixQuotes, 15 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/we-win-by-tenderness-we-conquer-by-forgiveness-169395/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.







