"Well. I'm probably not loving myself like I should, but I'm really trying"
About this Quote
"Probably not loving myself like I should" sneaks in a cultural script ("like I should") that’s both caring and punitive. It nods to the modern mandate to practice self-love as if it’s a hygiene routine: floss, hydrate, affirm. That "should" is where the pressure lives. She isn’t confessing a private failing so much as naming a standard she’s being measured against, even when no one else is in the room.
Then she swerves into resistance: "but I'm really trying". Not "I will", not "I am", but "trying" - the most human tense. It rejects the performative certainty we reward in celebrities and replaces it with process. The subtext is accountability without self-cruelty, a refusal to turn vulnerability into content or branding. For a Black woman who’s spent decades in an industry that sells confidence while extracting it, the line reads as a small act of reclamation: effort over perfection, survival over slogans.
Quote Details
| Topic | Self-Love |
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| Source | Help us find the source |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Khan, Chaka. (2026, January 17). Well. I'm probably not loving myself like I should, but I'm really trying. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/well-im-probably-not-loving-myself-like-i-should-49223/
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Khan, Chaka. "Well. I'm probably not loving myself like I should, but I'm really trying." FixQuotes. January 17, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/well-im-probably-not-loving-myself-like-i-should-49223/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"Well. I'm probably not loving myself like I should, but I'm really trying." FixQuotes, 17 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/well-im-probably-not-loving-myself-like-i-should-49223/. Accessed 5 Feb. 2026.








