"We're really in control; that's the difference. We were out of control then"
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The line works because it sounds almost comically simple, like something you’d say to a worried friend, yet it carries the weight of a whole era of excess. For Criss, a founding member of KISS, "then" isn’t just an earlier chapter; it’s the classic rock narrative when the band’s brand got bigger than the band’s judgment. KISS was always about spectacle and discipline onstage, but offstage the mythology of unlimited access (substances, egos, money, fame) turns "freedom" into a kind of unmanaged liability. Saying "we're really in control" is both reassurance and revision: a way to reclaim the story from tabloid chaos, internal fractures, and the sense that outside forces (managers, labels, addiction, the persona) were calling the shots.
There’s also a subtle group therapy dynamic in the "we". It spreads responsibility and redemption across the whole enterprise, implying maturity without naming specific sins. The repetition of "control" does the rhetorical work: it’s not poetic, it’s managerial. That’s the point. Rock mythology sells the idea of losing control as authenticity; Criss flips it, insisting the real flex is staying functional long enough to keep playing.
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Criss, Peter. (2026, January 16). We're really in control; that's the difference. We were out of control then. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/were-really-in-control-thats-the-difference-we-106318/
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Criss, Peter. "We're really in control; that's the difference. We were out of control then." FixQuotes. January 16, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/were-really-in-control-thats-the-difference-we-106318/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"We're really in control; that's the difference. We were out of control then." FixQuotes, 16 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/were-really-in-control-thats-the-difference-we-106318/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.




