"What I find very attractive, what I find sexual, are people who are unapologetic for who they are and comfortable with themselves. And I think with those two things sexual energy does come out because you're not hovering or censoring yourself, you're just being who you are. And being who you are is a very attractive quality in a person"
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The phrasing does a neat bit of cultural judo. She starts with "very attractive" and "sexual" to signal she isnt offering a sanitized, wellness-poster version of confidence. Then she shifts the source of eroticism away from performance and toward absence of performance: "not hovering or censoring yourself". Hovering is an image of self-surveillance, the anxious half-step people take when they anticipate judgment. In Moennigs telling, erotic energy appears when that internal censor clock-outs. Its not that authenticity is inherently sexy; its that comfort dissolves the static that blocks connection.
There's also a subtle rebuke here to the economy of desirability that rewards people for being legible and pleasing. "Unapologetic" hints at the demand to apologize for taking up space, for being too queer, too loud, too much. By naming comfort as erotic, she flips the script: the trait many people are taught to edit out becomes the magnetism itself. In a culture saturated with curated selves, Moennig is insisting that the unedited one still has heat.
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Moennig, Katherine. (2026, January 15). What I find very attractive, what I find sexual, are people who are unapologetic for who they are and comfortable with themselves. And I think with those two things sexual energy does come out because you're not hovering or censoring yourself, you're just being who you are. And being who you are is a very attractive quality in a person. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/what-i-find-very-attractive-what-i-find-sexual-142659/
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Moennig, Katherine. "What I find very attractive, what I find sexual, are people who are unapologetic for who they are and comfortable with themselves. And I think with those two things sexual energy does come out because you're not hovering or censoring yourself, you're just being who you are. And being who you are is a very attractive quality in a person." FixQuotes. January 15, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/what-i-find-very-attractive-what-i-find-sexual-142659/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"What I find very attractive, what I find sexual, are people who are unapologetic for who they are and comfortable with themselves. And I think with those two things sexual energy does come out because you're not hovering or censoring yourself, you're just being who you are. And being who you are is a very attractive quality in a person." FixQuotes, 15 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/what-i-find-very-attractive-what-i-find-sexual-142659/. Accessed 19 Feb. 2026.
