"What I find very attractive, what I find sexual, are people who are unapologetic for who they are and comfortable with themselves. And I think with those two things sexual energy does come out because you're not hovering or censoring yourself, you're just being who you are. And being who you are is a very attractive quality in a person"
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Moennig is taking the temperature of desire and finding it less in bodies than in posture. The line is framed as personal preference, but it lands as a quiet manifesto: the sexiest thing in the room is self-possession. For an actress whose career has been bound up with queer visibility (and the long, exhausting history of being looked at, explained, coded, and policed), that emphasis is not just romantic. Its political.
The phrasing does a neat bit of cultural judo. She starts with "very attractive" and "sexual" to signal she isnt offering a sanitized, wellness-poster version of confidence. Then she shifts the source of eroticism away from performance and toward absence of performance: "not hovering or censoring yourself". Hovering is an image of self-surveillance, the anxious half-step people take when they anticipate judgment. In Moennigs telling, erotic energy appears when that internal censor clock-outs. Its not that authenticity is inherently sexy; its that comfort dissolves the static that blocks connection.
There's also a subtle rebuke here to the economy of desirability that rewards people for being legible and pleasing. "Unapologetic" hints at the demand to apologize for taking up space, for being too queer, too loud, too much. By naming comfort as erotic, she flips the script: the trait many people are taught to edit out becomes the magnetism itself. In a culture saturated with curated selves, Moennig is insisting that the unedited one still has heat.
The phrasing does a neat bit of cultural judo. She starts with "very attractive" and "sexual" to signal she isnt offering a sanitized, wellness-poster version of confidence. Then she shifts the source of eroticism away from performance and toward absence of performance: "not hovering or censoring yourself". Hovering is an image of self-surveillance, the anxious half-step people take when they anticipate judgment. In Moennigs telling, erotic energy appears when that internal censor clock-outs. Its not that authenticity is inherently sexy; its that comfort dissolves the static that blocks connection.
There's also a subtle rebuke here to the economy of desirability that rewards people for being legible and pleasing. "Unapologetic" hints at the demand to apologize for taking up space, for being too queer, too loud, too much. By naming comfort as erotic, she flips the script: the trait many people are taught to edit out becomes the magnetism itself. In a culture saturated with curated selves, Moennig is insisting that the unedited one still has heat.
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| Topic | Confidence |
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